We are all different, and I am not even talking about color or culture. Our personalities, thought processing and even how we move through life, is all different. Even in the same family, every one is different. My daughter moves through life loudly. When she started walking she walked like she had flip flops on. I had never heard someone flop their feet so loudly. Some people walk quietly through a room and you would not know they were there if you didn’t see them. There are people who talk like they must get every thought out of their mind or it will disintegrate. Then there are those who won’t tell you what they had for breakfast. Some jump out of airplanes and take wild chances. Some sit quietly by a fire with a book. Some live their lives by goals, plans and to-do lists and others like to wing it. Some have a need to lead and some just want to follow. We are not the same, we are different. Many couple’s have fallen in love because of differences then later tried to change the very thing that made them fall in love. Don’t try to change a person instead celebrate how different they are. Sometimes we get caught up in wanting everyone to see it our way or do it the way “I” do it. Embrace the difference. We were made by the Creator to be different. Can you imagine how boring it would be if we all thought, acted and moved through life the same way? I have to remind myself of this all the time. I like to start my day slow, less talk, less movement. My idea of what to fix my daughter for breakfast is the same thing every day, eggs. She wants something different everyday, I don’t want to have to think or talk in the mornings. But I have to remind myself if someone wants to talk to me in the morning it is not because they hate me, they are different. My nickname as a child was snail not becauce I was slow but it rhymed with my name. My grandpa told me my nickname was spelled s-n-e-l-l, he didn’t want me to feel bad. I embraced the nickname. I would draw fancy little snail’s by my name and people would give me snail gifts. As i became older I kept the nickname, even put it on my personalized license plate. I liked to be a bit contrary so I drove the opposite of a snail. We are created unique, one of a kind. Not one of us are the same. The best friends that I have are the ones that are different from me and we celebrate our differences. Let’s celebrate. Find beauty and joy in someone different. When you celebrate another person and how different they are, you lend beauty to them and you gain beauty in yourself. And that type of beauty becomes strength. If you give permission for someone to be who they are, you help them step up, be strong, accept and appreciate their selves. They become better in every area of their life because they are not fighting against who God made them to be. Then they are free to accept another person with all of their differences. We are created equal with lots of differences. The beauty is in the differences and accepting them. Teach others to accept the differences by example. Your mission, if you accept it, is to celebrate the differences in those around you, your loved ones, friends, co-workers, neighbors and the cashier or waiter. Who do you need to take a second glance at, remind yourself to celebrate their differences and do not try to change them.
IF I BECOME FORGETFUL
If I become forgetful
I hope I made habits I will remember
That I loved my God with all I had
That I prayed continually in good and bad
That I loved my spouse like there was no other
That I gave my kids their best mother.
If I become forgetful in my old age
I hope important thoughts will not fade
That I won’t become dull in things that are major
My Lord, friends, children and spouse,
Because living for others is what it’s about
For if I lived the way I hope, only eternity will matter